just ask your self

…am I happy?

“This is one of those rare books where every chapter teaches you something. You keep turning the pages with curiosity, yet part of you slows down … because you’re not ready for it to end.”

— Zineb

Essays for people trying to be more honest with themselves about love, relationships, identity, and the lives they’re building. Giving language to what we feel but rarely say out loud, so we can see ourselves more clearly and choose from a place of truth.

Through a collection of 57 essays Choquette explores what it looks like to tell yourself the truth, recognize where you feel stuck, and begin moving toward a life that feels more comfortable to live in.

Rather than offering advice, Choquette slows these moments down, allowing readers to see clearly what awareness looks like in real time.

The relationships we stay in too long. The careers we outgrow. The versions of ourselves we perform. The dreams we quietly abandon. The truths we avoid because acknowledging them might mean something has to change.

Each essay ends with a question—a gateway designed to help you pause, look at your life differently, and uncover what you avoid, the truths you already know, and the courage it takes to put that truth into motion.

“It almost feels like you’re spying on someone else’s life, but by the end you’re sitting with big questions and reflections about your own life and choices and way forward.”

— Moly's Book Club

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“Clear, practical, and encouraging. The ideas are easy to understand and genuinely make you stop and reflect. A helpful read with takeaways you can actually apply.”

— Manpreet Grewal

Published by Bradford Blake Publishing. First Edition, February 2026.